We were all seated at a lounge waiting to depart to different destinations, each with his or her own thoughts.
The sweet serenity of the atmosphere was broken by a group of young men and two ladies who came in as a group doing what young people would do…,. talking loudly and laughing merrily at their own jokes and even pulling each other’s legs.
I do not mind their boisterous intrusion because before they arrived the place was far too quiet with few of us who arrived before them keeping to ourselves and pressing our phones; obviously we weren’t at a requiem mass, so a little noise isn’t bad.
As they were trying to settle down, I couldn’t help but hear their bone of contention; don’t mind me. I wasn’t evesdropping but the pen pushing in me couldn’t help but be interested. Wait! You will definitely be too when you know what they were discussing.
Their discussion? Cesarian section!
Apparently, one of them just got married and I couldn’t help but notice how uncomfortable the two ladies who were with them looked. I could have given a tooth to know which one of these ladies is the new bride of the very guy who claimed that women who deliver via the cesarian section ( CS ) aren’t women enough.
Aren’t women enough ke? Why? , his argument was that CS birth isn’t biblical. And also that every woman should bring forth children like the Hebrew women, he quoted, Exodus 1:19.……
As far as I am concerned, that’s quite vague. He probably should have read through Exodus 1: 7-21. The Lord who declared in Genesis that woman would bring forth children in pains, made child birth easy for them in Exodus when Israelites were in bondage. God is merciful. Hebrew women brought fourth their babies with ease because of their situation.
Apparently, this topic had been generating a lot of hullabaloo on social media, I didn’t come across it online though, I heard it loud and direct from this newly married man.
He went as far as boasting that he would not sign a consent form for a CS if in case his wife has to go through it. I really wish I could see his wife’s reaction. He said, “I am saying it to her hearing now, my mother gave birth to six children via normal birth and her mum too, so why would she be different?”. “Normal vagina birth is what makes a woman and a mother,” he concluded.
At that point, I wondered who this educated illiterate was, pardon my choice of words.
I would have stood up, pulled his ears and give him some lessons with my little knowledge, but of course, I couldn’t.
I, however, couldn’t help but wonder if there are other men out there who think just like him.
With my own little knowledge, I will say that CS primarily is to ensure the safety of the mother or baby and in some cases both of them when vaginal delivery is dangerous or impossible.
Of course, CS are typically associated with more pain and discomfort, as well as an increased healing time compared with normal vagina birth, where once the baby is out, the woman experiences a large relief except in cases of episiotomy or tears, but the pain cannot be compared with that of CS recovery.
It is important for this man and others (men or women) in his school of thought to know that doctors, their supporting nurses and anesthestists, are not just knives, scissors, sutures et all happy. They wouldn’t just want to lay a pregnant woman on the theatre table and open her up.
Majority of the CS cases are done to save mother and child in cases of; placenta previa, placenta abruption, uterine rupture, breech position of the baby, cord prolapse, fetal distress, failure to progress in labour, repeat CS, diabetes, pre eclampsia, birth defect, multiple birth among others.
Putting it mildly for those of us outside the medical line, the reasons and even the names of a CS is enough to give a cold feet. It sure portrays the seriousness; so, why would someone in a state of complete ignorance say or claim that a woman who delivers a baby through CS is not woman enough.
Majority of the time, CS option comes in after hours of labour; so, one can rightly say that a woman who eventually delivers through a CS is strong and she is a survivor. She should be appluded and not condemned; she should be cared for and not ignored.
Even that woman who opted for an elective CS, yes, elective CS, which is quite common today, shouldn’t be tied to the stake.
Some women decide that they would rather go for a CS than go through labour pains. Once they are 36 weeks and above gone in pregnancy, they go for the operation. Pregnancy and childbirth should be celebrated and appluded.
Yes, the man sowed the seed, but the woman carries it to term, going through stages of hormonal and physical changes, pains and discomfort. She carries the pregnancy to term and delivers.
Let’s give it to women and celebrate them!
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