Practically, the desire for intimacy does not disappear with age; yet, there are many unwritten laws and drawn lines placed on the elderly which prevent them from sexual expression, sexual fulfilment and sexual desire.
The fact, however, remains that older people remain sexual and sensual. The assumption that older adults lose sexual interest is a myth; sexual desire often persists, though it could change form and tenacity.
For some, especially the younger generation, they find it quite absurd, embarrassing and sometimes laughable when they discover that their older parents still remain intimate.
Whatever places an embargo on sex as men and women advance in age isn’t clear. This feeling of disappointment cuts across colour, culture and environment.
Elderly couples are frowned at by the younger generation when they express their sexuality. Exposure and education is expected to have corrected this school of thought.
This feeling of disapproval is heightened, especially when you find an older man or woman attracted sexually to a younger person. If the relationship is consensual and not illicit, the society should understand that everyone, even the elderly, are entitled to sexual and sensual expression once it does not affect their well-being or impair their health.
Older people sure remain sexual and sensual, though expressions are peculiar. Many seniors find continued pleasure and health benefits (yes health benefits) in expressing their sexuality; while physical changes, medication and sometimes health issues could give room for some form of adaptation.
These, however, may not affect intimacy, physical and emotional connection.
Older adults who are not impeded by underlying health issues and otherwise need to take cognizance of the fact that as they grow old, some things physical and emotional change and also need to adapt so as to have a fulfilling sexuality well being.
Redefining intimacy is necessary at this stage in life. It is important to know that sexuality doesn’t necessarily include physical intimacy; it could be social activity or non sexual closeness; such as holding hands kissing and cuddling can also do the magic.
Health issues can also affect sexual functions, physical changes and hormonal shifts, erectile dysfunction too. It is important to note that sexual activities and intimacy can reduce stress, improve cardiovascular health and contribute to a better quality of life.
Maintaining a fulfilling and healthy sex life in old age requires communication; seniors should be able to talk with their partner about physical changes and other emotional needs.
They should learn to adapt and explore new ways that work with their body, consult medical experts about medications or conditions affecting their sexual health freely.
It is also important to prioritize connection, focus on emotional closeness and simple physical affection. Note that as you grow older, sex toys aren’t the same as in your 20’s but it can still be enjoyable.
Many seniors still enjoy sex until their 80’s and even beyond. A healthy sex life is both fulfilling and good for other aspects of life too especially physical health and self esteem.
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